as i notice

Ang Hiling ko Sa KANYA.

2011-03-10T20:47:00.002+08:00

Marami tayong hinihiling sa mundong ito. May mga bagay tayong gustong makuha agad at may mga bagay naman tayo na kaya nating antayin. Ikaw? Ano ba ang gusto mong makuha? Ano ba ang kaya mong antayin?

Hindi ko inisip na darating ako sa punto na hihiling ako, hihiling ako agad-agad. Hindi ko kayang patagalin at mas lalo kong hindi kayang hayaan kahit alam kong wala naman akong magagawa kaya idadaan ko na lang lahat sa hiling. Alam kong medyo sakim ako sa gusto kong mangyari, at ito ay mauna ako! Mauna ako na matupad ang aking hiling dahil alam ko na kailngan ito, siguro kailangan ko pero hindi ko naman iniisip yun dahil ang tanging nasa isip ko lang ay kailangan ito ng mga mahal ko.

Kung ano man ito siguro sa akin na lang, at kung magkakaroon man ako ng lakas ng loob na sabihin ito, ipapa-alam ko ito sa inyo. Pero gusto kong ipa-alala na ang buhay ay maikli lang, kaya sana huwag nating sayangin ang mga oras na ibinibigay sa atin ng Diyos para maksama ang mga taong mahal natin.

think

2011-01-21T23:17:00.001+08:00

“Think of a butterfly which must struggle free from its chrysalis unaided. It is difficult work, but the butterfly must do it unaided in order to be strong enough to fly & survive in this world. We, too, must struggle unaided to find our own highest good and spiritual growth. Sometimes spiritual growth is painfully hard work. However, when we break through, we can spread our wings and fly.” (Anonymous)

sino ka ba?

2011-01-21T23:03:00.000+08:00

siya, yung nasa likod, yung katabi mo, si manong, si ale na nangalabit sa'yo, yung taong nabangga ka, at si kuya na tinulungan ka. sila! may mga dahilan kung bakit kayo nagkita at yung mga nangyari ang mga dahilan na yun. ikaw? ano ba ang nagagawa mo para sa iba? sino ka ba?

araw-araw na lang

2010-11-07T11:38:00.002+08:00

siguro, marami tayong nararanasan sa mga oras na ito. mga bagay na gusto na tin, mga bagay na ayaw nating hindi ginagawa, at mga bagay na ayaw talaga nating maranasan. ganito naman talaga ang buhay diba? we cannot predict what will happen, kahit sabihin na nating nagkaroon ng pag paplano. at the end of the day, ang kailngan na lang nating gawin ay tanggapin na ganoon ang buhay, hindi permanente at hinfi minsan magiging permanente. lahat kailangan magbago at lahat ay pwedeng lumisan kahit anong gawin natin ang buhay ay sadyang ganito.

sa bawat araw na magdadaan, kailngan talaga natin harapin ito ng hindi nagrereklamo dahil kung magrereklamo at magtatanong lang tayo ay walang mangyayari o kaya naman mas magiging kumplikado ang mga bagay-bagay dahil sa mga tanong na pwede nating sabihin, magiging kumplikado dahil sa mga sagot na minsan hindi natin kayang tanggapin. kaya naman sa buhay na ito, ang kailngan ay maging matapang at maging malawak ang pag-unawa hindi lamang sa mga bagay-bagay na nararanasan natin araw-araw pero sa mga tao na rin na parte ng mga iyon.

thought of the day

2010-11-07T11:34:00.002+08:00

what is life?... is it about your family? your dreams? we all have our own meaning of life, pero kahit saan natin tingnan, it will end up in one idea, that our life is about the people around us ^_^

sorry na

2010-11-05T12:51:00.002+08:00

October 25, 2010 - Ito ang araw na kung saan naging parte ang isang babaeng minsan kung nagustuhan noong kami pa ay nasa high school. Nagustuhan ko siya noon pero minamahal ko na siya ngayon, ngunit sa puntong ito hindi ko napapadama sa kanya na importante siya sa buhay ko dahil siguro sa mga bagay na nasa paligid ko.

Noong nakaraang linggo, nag focus ang away namin sa kabagalan ko mag text (INAAMIN KO, TAMAD AKONG MAG TEXT). Ngayon naman, mas naging kumplikado ang mga bagay-bagay dahil kahapon ay hindi ko siya nasipot sa usapan namin but I do not have a lame excuse naman but I already committed my time kaya yun ang kinagalit niya, with that feeling sabi niya ay hindi ko siya pinapahalagahan. Inaamin ko na akong ang mali, ako ang may mali that's why I already said sorry. And I'm hoping na sana she will forgive me, gusto ko sana siyang kulitin at magbigay ng extra effort para sabihin na patawarin niya na ako pero parang ngayon sa nangyayari sa buhay ko, ayoko ng mag dictate, ayoko na siyang pilitin, ayoko ng mangako, ayoko ng magsalita.

I hope that everything will be fine, it will be fine if one will give way and one will be going to admit that he was the one who commit the false action. Syempre, ako dapat yun pero sobrang hirap sa akin dahil hindi ako sanay na mamilit, hindi ako sanay mag please pero para sa'yo MICHELLE PEREZ, sasanayin ko ang sarili ko.

SORRY NA. SORRY.

mga nakaraang linggo sa buhay ko

2010-11-05T12:38:00.002+08:00

Since the last time na nag post ako dito, ang daming nangyari, mga bagay na hindi ko inaasahan.

May mga bagay na nagpasaya at nagparamdam sa akin ng halaga. Natutunan kong bigyang importansya ang mga taong nasa paligid ko, mga pamilya at kaibigan na handang tulungan ako.

Mga pagkakataong nagpalimot sa akin sa mga problemang nararanasan ko sa kasalukuyan, mga pagkakataong kasama ko ang taong gusto kong kasama.

May mga bagay rin na nagpaluha at nagbigay sa akin ng ng hindi kaaya-ayang pakiramdam. Isangpakiramdam na sobrang bigat at ngayon ko lang naranasan, mga problemang mas pinukol ang pinahahalagahan kong pamilya, at sa mga oras na ito, isa lang ang hiling ko, nasana maging maayos ang lahat. Magkaroon ng pagkakaintindihan at mabalutan ang bawat isa ng pagmamahalan.

mababangga ka

2010-08-31T12:37:00.002+08:00

last Sunday sa 6th anniversay ng PYM-OLFP, marami akong natutunan at mga naisip na mga reflection sa buhay. kaakibat talaga ng service ang sacrifice, hinding hindi mo ito pwedeng ipaghiwalay dahil sa service kailangan may focus ka at kapag may focus kasi kailangan mong hayaan yung mga ibang bagay na pinagtutuunan mo rin ng pansin.

mahirap kung tutuusin ang pagsa-sacrifice pero kailangan talaga yun hindi lang sa service kundi sa mga bagay na pinipili natin sa buhay, hindi naman kasi pwedeng dalawa ang lagi nating piliin. sabi nga nila, you really need to choose whether it's right or left because if you'll going to choose the center just to balance the right and the left, MABABANGGA KA! kaya kailangan talaga sa mga ginagawa natin, mapa-service man o kahit anong pinipili natin may isinasantabi tayong mga bagay para mas maging maganda ang kalalabasan ng pinili natin.

mahirap maipit, pero mas mahirap mabangga kaya dapat alamin natin kung ano ba talaga ang gusto natin.

paano ka ba tumulong?

2010-08-25T14:37:00.002+08:00

may mga tao na hindi talaga nila naiintindihan ang kung ano ba talga ang ibig sabihin ng pagtulong. ang iba kasi tumutulong hindi dahil gusto nila pero tumutulong lang dahil may gusto silang patunayan, may gusto silang ipakita, o kaya naman naghahangad sila ng papuri para sumikat at para masabi na tumutulong sila.

ang pagtulong ay isang bagay na ginagawa ng bukal sa puso, kahit na sabihin nating limang piso lang ang pera mo at gusto mo tumulong, tumulong ka dahil wala namang basehan ang pera o bagay na inambag mo. sa pagtulong, ang importante naman kasi ay yung intensyon mo kung bakit mo ito gagawin hindi lamang basta kailangan.

maikli lamang ang buhay at siguro ang pag-abot mo ng mga kamay mo sa mga taong alam mong kailangan ang tulong mo ay isang maganda ng paraan para makapagbigay ka ng ngiti sa kapwa. maraming paraan para makatulong at kung sa tingin mo nakakatulong ka na sa munti mong paraan, edi CONGRATULATIONS! at PALAKPAKAN! ^_^

life has a choice

2010-08-21T18:34:00.003+08:00

let's stop blaming people for being bad influence in our living because they're really not. yes, they are bad and we are with them when we do those crazy stupid things but who chose that? did they force us to join them? did they please us to be with them?

like what spider-man said, "life has a choice." it's our choice! yes, they influence us in a bad way but we let them influence us. we let them get inside our box and let them play our immaturity. as we take our lives day by day, we really can't figure out if we know what is right or what is wrong or something we really don't know if we're still doing the right thing.

i do understand if you do wrong moves because we are all doing that. we are all doing the wrong thing, consciously and unconsciously for the reason that temptation is not so good to handle.

Angelica Panganiban

2010-08-21T18:12:00.002+08:00

whoever owns this picture, thank you! sorry for not recognizing your great shot but let me please use this for this post because i really adore Ms. Angelica Panganiban (Philippine's Bidang-Kontrabida). i'm really a fan and i just want to share this picture to my visitors.

i hate 2nd place!

2010-08-21T17:55:00.002+08:00

ngayon ko lang napansin yung sticker na nakadikit sa cabinet ng kuya ko na napunta sa akin, it stated there that, "i hate 2nd place!" natawa lang ako siguro kasi naisip ko na minsan we really want to be number one, yung tipo na gusto natin tayo lagi yung bida, yung tayo lang yung pwedeng manguna. correct me if i'm wrong pero sa mga bagay na alam nating magaling tayo doon dumarating yung point na nasasabi natin yung linya na yun or something connected dun sa linya na yun. i hope you got me right! c;

pero kung titingnan natin hindi naman masamang mag-asam ng 1st place pero siguro kapag alam mong magaling ka dun sa bagay na yun learn also how to share your goodness. ang pagiging 1st place kasi ay isnag bagay na dapat ibinabahagi sa iba and that can make you a good leader, a good individual kasi mas nagiging 1st place tayo kapag nagmomold tayo ng tao para sa isang 1st place.

yung 1st and 1nd place na pinag-uusapan natin ay hindi lang sa context ng isang game or sports. ito ay sa buhay natin, kung saan tayo naging competitive. kung sa pagiging leader ba, estudyante, trabahador, or something na may mga kasabayan tayo. ang buhay mas nagiging masaya at worth living kapag maraming nagmamahal sayo at mas masarap kapag manggagaling yung pagmamahal sa ibang tao, kasing sarap ng pagmamahal ng isang pamilya. makukuha siguro natin yun kapag nagbigay rin tayo sa iba ng buong-buo, dito na siguro pumapasok yung sinasabi kong 1st/2nd place.

ang aking pagbabago

2010-08-21T17:40:00.002+08:00

hindi talaga natin maiiwasan na darating tayo sa punto na titigil sa mga ginagawa natin. siguro, nangangahugan ito sa pagkapagod natin o kaya naman sa pagkakaroon ng bagong bagay na gustong pagtuunan ng pansin. dati siguro ganoon akong klaseng tao, yung tipong kapag ayoko na, ayoko na talaga kasi madali akong magsawa dati sa mga bagay na ginagawa ko kaya nga noong minsan dinescribe ko yung sarili ko na ang dami kong kayang gawin ngunit hindi naman ako bihasa sa mga bagay-bagay na ginagawa ko.

ngayon, masasabi ko siguro na may pinagbago ako. ako na kasi yung tipo na tao na kapag ginawa ko, tatapusin ko dahil alam ko sa sarili kong kaya ko. naging sobrang positive rin ako na tao dahil sa mga nangyari sa buhay ko. siguro ganoon talaga, habang tumatanda ka mas lumalalim ka at mas nakikilala ang sarili mo, mas nalalaman mo kung hanggang saan ka lang at kung ano talaga ang gusto mo.

siguro sa ngayon, mas nakikita ko ang sarili ko sa isang tamang destinasyon dahil mas inaaccept ko na yung mali ko, mas tianatanggap ko na ito ng buong buo. sabi nga nila, "IF YOU CAN'T ACCEPT IT, CHANGE IT BUT IF YOU CAN'T CHANGE IT, ACCEPT IT." hindi ko naman sinasabi na tama itong line na to kaso kapag tinanggap mo kasi yung mali mo ng buong buo mas yayabong ka bilang tao. pero kung tutuusin kasi, mas tama rin yung magkamali tayo kahit pinagsasabihan na tayo sa pwedeng mangyari. kapag nagkaroon kasi ng expereince mas nagkakaroon ng impact sayo.

step up

2010-08-19T23:50:00.002+08:00

I had a great time last night with some of my closest friends in our PYM (Parish Youth Ministry). We watched Step Up 3D with a popcorn, biggie ice tea, large ice tea, c2, piatos, and king corn. We had so much fun even though julia and badeth is not there to join us.

Step Up 3D is not just about the dance moves and the beat of all music that was used but the is really all about movie about the process of achieving your dreams and at the same time doing your passion.

If there will come a time that you need to chooses whether your dream or your passion, what are you going to choose? This is the question that I comes on my mind as I watch the film. And as I observe the every clip of the movie, all the characters does not give up with their dreams and passion even there is a failing point in life, there is still a positivity in there hearts. The willingness that a good competitive quality of each of us.

All the time, it's not just destination matters but also the things that happened along the way. Those should be treasured share.

79

2010-08-17T09:28:00.002+08:00

i hate numbers, i hate mathematics, i hate algebra, i hate geometry, i hate trigonometry, i hate chemistry, and i hate physics.

i super hate those subjects because of the confusion that they gave me and giving me. i'm really not fun of computing and analyzing problems, it leads me to negative vibes and being so stupid in solving. i really don't have the passion with numbers, we are opposite and i really hate it but being opposite with numbers makes me think the statement, "opposite attracts." we really had a an attraction, an attraction of negativity.

enough of being bitter with numbers, i have a story and here it is. Yesterday we met our our prof in physics and we had a session in morning and afternoon. In our morning session i received the result of my midterm examination and guess what, i git 30/75. actually, hindi na ako nagulat because i know that i'll be failing but really gave my best that's why there's sadness in me (you can't pull it out). we also computed our midterm grade and thank God because i got 78.8, in short 79! i'm not the type of person who is really concern with my grades but i always give my best shot. so that's what happened in the morning session. in our afternoon session we had a task sheet. a task sheet is always given to us every after the topic, but as we start the task sheet out professor called me and he let me bring my stuffs. she let me ask questions and then i grab the opportunity i asked everything that i need to ask.

to my beloved professor in physics, Ms. Maria Eliza P. Cruz, super than you po.

being in a wrong situation doesn't mean you'll be failing, sometimes it depends on the people you are with.

a family is a family

2010-08-15T22:09:00.003+08:00

This picture was taken last month, few days before our dad go back to Angola for his work. Ito ata yung first time na magkaroon kami ng may pagkaserious picture, hindi kasi masyadong laging nagsasama-sama eh. Kapag andyan daddy dun lang talaga nagsasabay sa pagkain at pagsimba pero pag wala na kasi siya dun kami bumabalik sa usual na ginagawa namin. We all have our commitments outside pero minsan talaga pag nandito ang daddy talagang kailangan mong nasa bahay or sumama lagi sa lakad dahil sabi niya nga minsan lang daw manyari yun.

Siguro ganoon talaga, kailangan nating i-treasure at ingatan ang mga tao at bagay na minsan lang natin makita at pangyayaring minsan lang mangyari. This explains that everything change and if it already happened it means it happened. Cannot be repeated! So open your arms to the things and people whom you want share your life with.

we're just one

2010-08-14T01:22:00.001+08:00

ambon, hangin, lamig

2010-08-14T01:08:00.002+08:00

Huwebes ng gabi, pagkababa ko ng keep may nakita akong bata na nakasiksik sa gilid ng pader sa puregold almar kasabay ng sobrang lamig na hangin at ambon, nakita ko ang batang nag-iisa at walang kasama. Wala siyang kaibigang pwedeng kausapin o mga kapamilyang pwedeng magbantay at tumingin sa kanya.

Sa nakita kong iyon, may napagtanto lamang ako, na minsan mas pinipili pala nating mag-isa kung hindi na natin kaya yung nasa paligid natin, kung alam natin na masyado ng malamig ang mga nangyayari, sobrang hangin na ng binibitawan, at maulan na ng sakit at karamdaman. Mas pinipili nating mag-isa hindi dahil gusto natin magpapansin o dahil inuunahan lang natin ang gagawin sa atin ng ibang tao pero dahil kadalasan sa buhay natin, nagsasawa rin tayo sa ingay ng paligid natin. Ito ang maaaring dahilan kung bakit ang bata ay nakasiksik sa pader, dahil pinili niya iyon, kung sa katunayan nga pwede naman siya tumakbo at hamunin ang lamig, ambon, o hangin na nasa paligid niya.

Noong inalala ko ulit ang bata, parang nakita ko siyang nakamasid lang sa paligid niya at nag-aabang sa mga bagay-bagay na pwede niya ng balikan. Nakikiramdam siya, kinakausap ang nasa paligid niya gamit ang kanyang mga mata.

:-(

2010-08-13T23:41:00.002+08:00

I would like to thank this week for letting me go back to my hobby (this! blogging) but on the other hand i would like to hate this week on what I've done a while ago. My mom talked to me and we had a discussion about our bill in maynilad and all of a sudden, she said that her sugar is still high and told me that with a teary eye. We already know that she has a Diabetes but we're just laughing it about because we know that she's so strong to handle that but what happened a while ago is the first time I've seen my mom feeling sad about her situation, I feel empathy.

I said that I hated this week because when she told that to me and looked to me eye to eye, I turned my head into the computer. I want to hug her and to to comfort her but I can't. I can't because I need to be strong; I can't because I know that I also can't handle that dramatic scene.

(sigh)

i'm back

2010-08-11T23:36:00.003+08:00

YES! I'm back! I actually planned to make a new blog that composed of my recorded podcast but I actually deleted it because of my not so good voice. Now, I'm back and ready to use this as my back up friend. ^_^ So I really wanted to tell everything, every little thing that is happening to me and happened to me but telling everything is the lesson that I've learned since I said goodbye last October 6, 2009. ^_^ I will not explain myself briefly but I'll just want you to know that this is not my diary but this is the way I see things both negative and positive.

Please be with me AS I NOTICE the unnoticeable.

Hindi ako tsismoso! Hindi rin ako pakialamero! at mas lalong hindi ako daldalero! AKO LANG AY ISANG SIMPLENG TAO NA NAGHAHANGAD NG PAGBABAGO. ^_^

song

2009-10-06T12:11:00.001+08:00

"I just can't help but to play the song again, and it let me remember the people who touched my individuality, the way I sing, dance, write, speak, pray, and the way I lead. Now, I'm on my way to create a new song that will let me touch other lives."

-mikael fidel enriquez

my learning about SDT

2009-09-14T11:38:00.004+08:00

my learning about

SELF-DETERMINATION THEORY
by Ann Gillard, Ph.D. Student

I have learned that one way to boost your determination is by attending a group camp, wherein people can experience supports and opportunities for their social, psychological, and physical development. At camp, youth can explore identities, develop skills, and interest, make choices, and experience intrinsic motivation.

In self-determination theory is generally defined as “When self-determined, people experience of sense of freedom to do what is interesting, personally important, and vitalizing.” The two parts that are particularly useful in the self-determination theory (SDT) are motivation and supporting the psychological basic needs: competence, relatedness, and autonomy.

In motivation it is viewed as being dynamic, constantly evolving process, in contrast to a static. Enduring that is proposed by other motivational theories. Is also stated that there are six types of motivation, and those are the following: amotivation, extrinsic motivation, introjected motivation, intrinsic motivation, identified, motivation, and integrated motivation.

I believe that SDT will help us especially the youth of today in making our dreams come true. It motivates everyone and let everyone determine the uniqueness of one self. In SDT, self-direction, self-expression, and motivated involvement rotate in every action of every people.

Displaced Aggression

2009-09-07T15:39:00.000+08:00

"this is my background of the study in my research paper about displaced aggression"

If a person is in a bad mood and he will displace his mood to others that are innocent on what happened, misunderstanding will occur because of the attitude that was shown. This behavior is called, Displaced Aggression.

Displaced Aggression may occurs when a person is provoked, and later on they will aggresses their temper against the innocent target, this is what Thomas F. Denson confirmed in his research article entitled, “Displaced Aggression in Children and Adolescents.” People sometimes can’t control their feelings especially if that feeling is anger because of the unexpected outcome that brings them in irritation. They can’t control their selves because they are manipulated by that anger, and sometimes the worst part is, if there will be revenging ways.

This kind of behavior is just one of the much known types of aggression. Aggression, from the site Wiki Education-The Psychology Wiki, is something that covers a wide variety that practices the launching attacks and destructive actions. In this case, displaced aggression is a harmful behavior, but is it really a harmful behavior, or just an unhealthy behavior.

Displaced Aggression may create conflict and misunderstanding in many aspects of living; it’s a cycle that’s so difficult to control because this behavior has an emotion but can be motivated by what we called, “feeling.”

Determining the weakness is a good way to be improved and be developed in this world, that’s why people also need to know their negative side. One way to determine is letting people answer some specific questionnaire about a certain topic, like what this research paper used. This paper used Displaced Aggression Questionnaire (DAQ), questionnaire that truly measures the displaced aggression behavior of a certain person. This questionnaire has a subscale that will let the researchers arrived on a right assessment, those subscales are the following: revenge planning, angry rumination, and how to engage in displaced aggression.

This research paper contains information about one of the much known type of aggression, the displaced aggression. This type of aggression may create conflict between two groups or two persons that are both innocent on each others’ mood; the one is angry, aiming for revenge, and the one is innocent, relaxed in interacting with everyone he is seeing.

ang hirap magulat

2009-09-03T14:40:00.002+08:00

HIM

2009-08-29T11:07:00.003+08:00

by:MIGS

"It's so hard to believe that nothing is permanent, even though the love that we thought would last forever. Why is like that? Why we can't maintain and control everything just for us to be happy."

That's my personal opinion about love! But you know, that opinion was change when I discover His love. I discover one thing, and that one thing explains everything, and that is, "THE ONLY PERMANENT IN THIS WORLD IS HIM." That Him is our GOD the FATHER, who let us feel His love by giving us His ALMIGHTY SON, Jesus Christ. And by letting us touched by the POWERFUL SPIRIT, Holy Spirit. His love will always be there even though in the darkest time of our lives. He will guide us, He will blessed us, and He will love us. He is the only permanent in this world, the only permanent lover of His creations.

surprises

2009-08-05T19:49:00.007+08:00

Our life has a lot of surprises, some surprises that can change us a bit and some surprises that can change us from this to that. We can't stay away of that changes because emotions can really manipulate us whether we like it or not; we can't just close our eyes in every surprises that may put as in pain, for the reason that we can never tell when and where will that happened. Life always thrills us because as we go through our journey we always encounter a lot of unidentified destinations, unexplainable situations that may put us in a place where sometimes we're against of because of the previous encounter that make us recall things that can make us cry over and over again.

for you _ _ _ _ _ _

2009-08-05T19:44:00.001+08:00

sensya nah ... alam ko nag-usap na tayo, pero ewan ko bah, hindi ko alam kung bakit GUSTO pa rin kitah, kung bakit MAHAL pa rin kitah .. ang drama ko ... pero its been 2 years ago since OUR LOVE STORY HAPPENED (ended actually) ... may bf kanah, ang dami ng nagbago, at ilang beses na tayong nag-usap ... pero ganitoh parin ang nangyayari, paulit-ulit parin ung nararamdaman ko ... nasasaktan lang siguro ako, pero alam ko naman naiintindihan mo dibah? cguro hanggang dito na lang talagah, sabi mo ngah KAPATID munah ako, hanggan dun na lang cguro tayo, PARA D AKO MASAKTAN AT PARA HINDI AKO MAKASAKIT ... ang dami kung naisip na plano para masira kayo, hahaha (ang kontrabida ko) ... pero kahit ganun, nagagawa at naiisip ko un kasi sobra kitang mahal, pero alam kung sobra mo siyang mahal kasi sobra ka rin nyang mahal ... I'M SO DRAMATIC, (haha) but please don't laugh, I just can't hide the feeling, the sadness inside me ... but don't blame yourself, kasi alam kung kasalanan ko toh ... PINAKAWALAN KO ANG ISANG BABAENG TULAD MO ... haist ... let me share you something, dami kung ka MU, txtmate, chatmate, cguro kasi CUTE at MABAIT ako (hahahahaha), pero walang nagtatagal, kaya shinare ko kay LARA at sabi niyah baka ikaw daw ung nakikitah ko sa kanila, then sabi ko, OO ngah ... un lng, hahaha ....

alam mo siguro e2 na talagah ung right time para mag move on totally na talagah akoh, even though this is not the right way to tell you this pero, kailangn nah talgah kasi ako lng namn talgah ang mahihirapan ... auko ngang sabhin o ipadama sau eh kasi ilang beses na taung nag-usap eh, pero gustoh ko lng talagang malaman mo para tapos nah, para hindi na aku ulit gagawa ng move para kulitin kah at para tawagin kang HABIBI ... NABABASA MO BA UNG SHOUTOUT MOH?, tama yan ipaglaban niyo ung puso niyo, kasi dbah malay niyo kayo talaga sa isa't isa, so DON'T GIVE UP ... pero ako, I'm signing off, kasi kailangan ko, at alam kung nalulungkot karin sakin, pero kailangn kasi e2 ung dapat, I GIVE UP W/ ALL MY HEART ... I assure you, hindi ko na ulit isisingit ung tungkol satin sa barkada at kahit kaninong kaibigan ko, hidni na kitah kukulitin, no more HABIBI ... I promise, pero syempre ung friendship, d naman mawawala yan eh, kahit medyo ganito ung nagyari, andito parin akoh KUNG KAILANGN MO AKO (cguro kung kailangan mo na lng talgah ako, auko ng ireach out ka para d ako umasa ng kapalit, kaya gusto ko ikaw magsasabi, HEHEHEHEHE)... bastah alis mo na lng ako sa featured friend mo para d magalit si banjo, para d kana tawaging HABIBI ...

"this message is a byebye, but not in our friendship, but to the love that I keep on expecting from you ... kasi dibah sabi mo dati maraming pwedeng mangyari? ... pero ngayon, wala ng mangyayari, para wala ng expectation ... salamat rin pala sa pagexperience ng love, kasi dbah dati sabi ko d ako naniniwala sa love, pero nung umalis ka sa buhay ko, aun NASAKSAK AKO NI KUPIDO"

...e2 ung poem na ginawa ko sau nung JANUARY 6, 2009 sa blog ko, gustoh ko lng ishare, may karugtong payan eh, binura ko na lng, hehehe...:

Tuesday, January 6, 2009

for a special girl

When I Noticed You... I've seen a THOUGHTFUL girl...

When I Met You... I find you NICE...

When I've Known You... I've got a FRIEND...

When You've Loved Me... I've got CONFUSED...

When I've Loved You... You were TAKEN...

PS: tnx for being a true friend, and tnx for the wonderful memories ... GOOD LUCK, GOD BLESS, and GOOD BYE...

sumasang-ayon ako!

2009-08-05T18:00:00.002+08:00

Ang sarap pagmasdan ng mga batang naglalaro, kung tutuusin dahil ito sa kadahilanan na hindi pa nila naiisip ang mga problema at ang mga bagay-bagay na masasakit sa kanila. Oo, nasasaktan sila! pagnaipit, pagnadapa, o paggutom! ngunit hindi pa nila nararamdaman ang mas malalim na sakit, siguro dahil kuntento ang mga bata kung ano ang nakikita ng mga mata nila, kadalasan nagtatanung ngunit hindi na naitatanung kung anu ba ang pakiramdam natin sa nagyari. Masarap talagang maging bata, kahit magkamali napapagalitan lang ng kaunti, hindi tulad ngayong nagiging parte na tayo sa mga sumasang-ayon, nagiging mas kumplikado ang lahat sa atin, sa bukas na ating haharapin dahil sa mga taong nakapalibot sa atin, na laging nakamasid hanggang magdilim.

magkakapatid

2009-07-25T10:59:00.002+08:00

kahit lagi kaming nag-aaway...
kahit lagi silang sumisigaw...
kahit lagi kaming pasaway...
kahit lagi silang nagkakalat...
kahit lagi kaming napapagalitan...
kami ay MAGKAKAPATID habang buhay...

hehehehe
ang KULIT

"the photo was taken last FATHER's DAY, biruin niyo ng-photo shoot kami sa newly painted storage area namin, pero hindi na siya mukhang storage room, mukha ng kwarto, ganda ngah eh at sobrang linis nah, hehehe... well un ngah, un ung gift namin sa dad namin nagsulat kami ng HAPPY FATHER'S DAY sa may pader, then picture2x...hehehe...aun"

hs barkadas

2009-07-25T10:52:00.003+08:00

I missed them a lot, super... My HS Barkadas, hehehe... We're striking again like we're still in HS but don't get me wrong, we're getting older and more mature in facing our problems in life...

tipsy?

2009-07-25T10:20:00.002+08:00

Ako, Inigo, Mark, Carlo, Jico, Nico, KC, Jusan, Via, and AJ created some noise on July 24, 2009 around 5pm @ Gilmore in 4x4. Kwentuhan, inuman and that's it nagkaroon ng kasiyahan. Some are close, and some became close.

I'm posting this because of one thing that I've observed, and that is, if people are drunk or tipsy (like jusan keep on saying, hehe) thay can create bond and closure with others because if we are drunk we can't control ourselves but we are aware on what are we doing (from our professor in Filipino). In that case, comfortability occurs and trust develops and it may lead to a strong bond.

ulan

2009-07-25T10:05:00.002+08:00

sa pagdating ng ulan, ang mga mata ko'y gustong dumungaw...
sa mga bawat patak, ng ulang umaapaw...
sa aking pagdungaw, nakikita ko ang kasawian...
ng mga taong akala ko'y naghahari-harian...

sa pagpatak pala ng ulan, matatanaw mo ang kahinaan...
ng lahat ng taong nagtatapang-tapangan...
mamamasid mo silang sumusulong...
at sabay pabulong na sinasabing, "tumigil ka na ulan, ako'y di matapang."

strange

2009-07-25T10:01:00.001+08:00

sometimes, it's better to live with a stranger.......

than living in a strange way.......

blue's clues

2009-07-08T14:53:00.004+08:00

we can't always figure out the blue's clues of our lives...

because we are on a true to life story...

not manipulated by script and cameras, but manipulated by a true scene with the people whom we hate and love...

^-migs-^

I Confess

2009-04-20T11:29:00.002+08:00

why do people try to do things that they know in the end, they might become a victim... hmmmm... I think I know the answer, because one day in my previous days I experienced it... hahaha... I honestly don't want to share it because I disagree on that act, on that stupid act... not the whole act actually, but the venue... as in the "venue"... CRAP... but the nice thing is, in the end... I did not become a victim, but I became STUPID SINNER...

curiosity

2009-04-20T10:25:00.002+08:00

CURIOSITY can change us in just a MOMENT but it can have a LIFETIME result...

minimithi

2009-04-20T09:51:00.002+08:00

SA BUHAY NATIN, MAY MGA MABUBUTING BAGAY TAYONG GINAGAWA, HINDI DAHIL GUSTO NATIN PERO DAHIL KAILANGAN. KAILANGAN PARA MAABOT ANG BAGAY NA MINIMITHI NATIN.

My Own Theory

2009-03-14T01:23:00.004+08:00

Enriquez: Individual Sensitivity

Overview of Individual sensitivity
Biography of Mikael Fidel B. Enriquez
The Root of Flexibility, Loyalty and Charity
Sensitivity Chain

Responsibility
Pressure
Argument
Conflict

Sensitivity Touch

Positive Touch

Affirmation
Interaction
Bonding

Negative Touch

Misunderstanding
Rejection
Hatred

Outgrowths of Sensitivity

Major Outgrowths

Flexibility
Loyalty
Charity

Minor Outgrowths

Continuation
Appetizing

Psychotherapy

Overview of Individual Sensitivity

Individual Cycle of Sensitivity is all about sensitivity. This theory explains the very optimistic side of sensitivity. In sensitivity, it focuses on its upshot attitude to exercise the right approach in facing our lives.

The understanding of Enriquez was based on his experience in terms of handling his responsibility. These experiences lead him to discover the relation of flexibility, loyalty, and charity to sensitivity. He’ve stated that sensitivity is the root of those discoveries, and those discoveries is the highlight of this theory. This theory also shows the outgrowth of sensitivity, its chain, and touch.

Biography of Mikael Fidel B. Enriquez

Mikael Fidel B. Enriquez formerly know by some of his colleagues as Mikayl Fidel C. Buyoc was born on February 17, 1992, second child out of wedlock, his mother’s name is Noralyn Callano Buyoc and his biological father is Eduardo Antonio Diago Bondoc. His parent separated when his elder brother was only 4 months old and his mother didn’t noticed that she was again pregnant. Upon knowing it, his mother made a lot of ways on how to terminate his life away from this world because that time his mother felt alone, his mother was too worried on how to survived considering that his elder brother was still a baby, his mother was jobless, and too irritable but life is so meaningful despite of what his mother did even up to the moment of giving birth to him. He came out healthy, cute and lovable. Thank God, he got no deficiency for all the attempts that his mother have done.

He was delivered at home in his grandmas place at Bontoc, Southern Leyte through the help of their Provincial Health Nurse in a normal scheme. According to his mother, that moment she gave birth to him, all her pains and hatred misplaced by love, care, affection and fondness. She breastfed him up to 1.2 years old, she nurtured well and he grew cheery and joyful baby that you must be fond of, most of their neighbors in the province are waiting when he’ll be awake to pick him up and play with him. He was fast and effortless to imitate on anything you taught him, silliness or good ones.

He was the apple of the eye in the family unlike his elder brother who he was a naughty boy, that’s why they’re are constantly have a conflict to every little thing, his little brother is an extrovert who cares to play along the streets whereas he is introvert because of his homebody attitude. They play each other or even play with other children in some ways but they cannot amused their selves in longer time, hence they easily felt irritated to each other because his brother is great bilker, his brother wanted to win always in any aspects and when he lose, he will mocked him up until he cry.

As his simple life goes on, all his necessities were provided by his mother’s relative until his mother got a job here in Manila, few months later his mother tag on them but still with the aid from their Tito and Titas. In few time she acquired excellent job in one of the top rated steel companies and became successful on her career. She sent her sons into a private schools and trying to furnish all their needs. They grown-up with house helpers diversity, hence they were unfortunate to find good buddy at home. Enriquez, was the one who’ve handled instructions from his mom every now and then, most likely when his mother goes to work, at an early age he need to comprehend all his mother’s instructions or else his mother will get crazy at him which sometimes he cannot understand why, but he forced to do so because of their situation.

On other hand, his biological dad faltered to extend his support ever since, in fact he was already 8 years old when he first and last time to see him, with the companion of his mother and brother. That was also the time when his father recognized that he got two sons from the mother of Enriquez. After that acquaintances and staying with their father for few days, they took no more notices from him aside from a few messages from the friendster account of Enriquez last year of June through the brother of his biological father.

Back to the toddler age of Enriquez, when his mother was still working she’ve met a guy named Aurelio H. Enriquez, her officemate, also an engineer who was very keen in inciting to have a good relationship to her he was very ready to face and help the mother of Enriquez to handle his responsibilities to them. He performed not just a good real father but the most of it, a good provider. On their early relationship, it were not that soft, definitely because he got hard to win the heart of the mother of Enriquez, the situation of course was complicated his families were also cautious to accept the mother of Enriquez because of course of the extra baggage at the back of her, as casual his side were contradicting the situation, as well on the mother’s side, they were all anxious if the step dad would mistreated the children as the usual stories of this kind, but the step dad goes on and proved that he is different. Eriquez witnessed their love affair, he stand as genuine, not just in supporting us all their needs but the care and love he shown to them can’t be beatable than no one else. With him, their lives became normal, they live together for 4 years and they’ve got little brother and sister, year 2003 they got married at last.

The step dad always persisting to gave his name to the first two children through adoption but adoption is too high and it cost and long process until year 2005 the mom of Enriquez apprehended that when she gave birth to Enriquez, his biological father was not declared on the birth certificate, so therefore anyone can acknowledge and legitimize the birth certificate so they did and processed it. Enriquez was secretly asked by his mom if its fine with him before hand since who knows one day his biological dad would emerge and might recover the, somehow, but no hesitation he said to his mom “yes” only that perhaps, because he also wanted to have the family name same with them, and doesn’t know what’s come to pass. His brother as well processed the same, and the school records submitted with legitimized birth certificate that converted Enriquez and his brother family name under to their step dad, which is Enriquez.

Up to now, Enriquez have no misgivings with his step dad, not just he kept on providing their needs particularly in their studies, but still the love and care is greater to his own children. They were addressing him tito before, but as time goes on, they felt that he doesn’t deserved for that admiration only and they decided to call him daddy as well so their little brother and sister won’t ask questions on that part anymore, he set their lives as normal family, complete and bonded in the name of our Lord God our Father.

As they grow, he is always on their crown in believing that our God above who watches us in our ups and down situation, he always lead the prayer together, that is one nice thing to him, that’s why he also involve into church activities as he is. He teaches a lot of things to his family and friends, the only thing that occasionally he felt sad and stressful is that his step dad’s outlook to him is quite high, because he is the only one who doesn’t have a sick. His older brother has a hearing deficiency even as his little brother, whom diagnosed lately of epilepsy, and his little sister who have a congenital heart disease and was operated when his sister was one year and seven months.

His mom is quite dazzling in her approach in their lives, she’s an easy go lucky mom. She is not that serious for their future, she has some kind of a “bahala na system” she spent their money recklessly buying unnecessary things even away from the budget and most of the time, lending their allowance to her friends without sometimes guarantee if she would be paid in their commitment date, that’s why they constantly lapse the budget. Imagine, even the own savings of Enriquez was borrowed for the sake of others. As Enriquez can observe her, she cannot refuse for those who loom her financially. She’s so considerable to others but when she’s out of budget it’s her turn now to lend with interest, she is so amazing until such time she was locked into credits but thank God. God is always good all the time and their step dad is truly has a big heart to us. Their step dad always save the mom of Enriquez situation and handling it knowledgably is a big part.

Because of the mother’s attitude, the step dad of Enriquez asked him assistance to handle such thing financially; he dispersed him to be more responsible now Emriquez is in 1^st year college in San Beda College, Mendiola Manila, taking up B.S. Psychology. He keeps on monitoring and handling the monthly payables. His mom also agreed for that condition so she could control for those who ask help from her.

Essentially, Enriquez is quite prepared, he was organized by his mom to pay bills, when he was a little boy yet, and his mom even requested him to do marketing and groceries then, there where times when he cried when some vendors in the market teased him. His weak spot at home is doing household chores, even to keep his room clean, he seldom do it, and just rely it to the house help but sometimes he forced his self to do so in the absence of their house helper and of course washing his own clothes never happened however, he tried once but he is so unease with his clothes to be clean and sweet scented always. You can trust him to watch over his little sister and little brother in fact, they are sweet to him but as his elder brother in which up to now they’re still clash since they were a little boy.

In the schooling of Enriquez during his early years, he is already active in some school activities. He was not in a top rated students but he always one of the classroom officers during high school and he became a classroom president during his 4^th year high school days and even the president in his chosen school organization. He is friendly and being a clown but only to his closed friends, many girls hang around him, perhaps they feel secured on his side, some of them are his crushes but he still don’t tend to court roughly. His talent is dancing in which he really love to do, but his step dad preventing him to do it. His step dad wanted him to concentrate with his studies and become a doctor one day, that’s the top request of his step dad and nothing less.

The life of Enriquez became more meaningful when he became part of the core group in his parish until now as a documentation head and became also a documentation head last year in the vicariate level. Because of his big responsibility to his family, he’ve chosen to refused to be part of the vicariate again in the year 2009, but still he remain part of the core group in the parish because he believes that even though we have many responsibilities, putting God in our list is a good thing to do, it’s not a must but we should do it as a children of God.

Sensitivity, that’s what Enriquez put in his heart and mind to adjust in his life. And being sensitive is the way he wants the people to be because if there is sensitivity, there will be flexibility, and if there is flexibility, there will be charity. If people want to have flexibility and charity in their lives, they should first learn how to be sensitive because sensitivity is the root of kindness.

The Root of Flexibility, Loyalty and Charity

Money makes the people go round but sensitivity makes the people go endless. Both round and endless has same meaning, but doesn’t have same thought. Round pertains to continuously rotation of people; people act, decide for the betterment of their reputation. In endless, it pertains to continuously rotation of people in how they do things for the betterment of their personality.

To improve that personality, we need to have flexibility, loyalty, and charity. But before having those traits, we should first establish in our heart and mind the act of sensitivity.

Sensitivity can lead to flexibility, because both adapts to the environment in a clam and knowledgeable way. There’s a progress if the relationship of both sensitivity and flexibility will lead into Loyalty. In loyalty, trust and care will be established for more good development. And later on, it will go into serious way of dealing responsibility, and it’s Charity. In charity, there’s a contribution and involvement to the people.

The Root of Flexibility, Loyalty and Charity

Sensitivity Chain

In life, problems can’t be set aside because whether we like it or not, problems are there, sitting beside us. Problems sometimes start at the stage wherein responsibility occurs, and everything will follows and then go back again to the first phase.

Responsibility

The first thing that we will experience in this chain is responsibility. A single responsibility will do, but if we are committing ourselves into many obligations, there’s no doubt that there will be a lot of responsibility will come our way. Accepting or choosing more responsibility can cause confusion, which will let us become stressful, and later on, it make us pressure.

Pressure

If there will be more responsibility, there will be a tendency that pressure may occur not only in a single moment but in a lot of days as you’ve handling the responsibilities. Pressure can manipulate us, it can control people not only us but the people around us. And if the people will feel that manipulation, they will become uneasy because you will also feel that pressure. Living with pressure is hard; it can affect all aspects of our daily routine, and the people around us. Pressure can lead to arguments.

Argument

Argument is the next phase in the chain of sensitivity, if we will let ourselves manipulate by the pressure in our responsibilities it will lead us into a big argumentation, into a conflict. If there is an argumentation in a community or in a relationship, misunderstanding and misperception is occurring, because those are the main reason why arguments became conflict, why arguments became serious.

Conflict

The last phase in the chain of sensitivity is conflict. There’s a mix emotions, hatred, and failures in conflict because it’s not just something to do with the people who you have an argued with but it is also an argumentation with yourself.

Sensitivity Touch

Enriquez believes that people needs to be noticed, whether positive or negative; positive way to be noticed for motivation and negative way of noticing for growth.

Positive Touch

Affirmation

Being happy, being comfortable in our everyday life is a must because we need to live our life to the fullest. One factor of being happy is to be affirmed by someone, affirming someone is a way of letting them know that they are special. Letting them feel the small amount of kindness makes them comfortable in a relationship, whether there is a closure or none. Affirming someone is the best first-aid in life.

Interaction

Letting ourselves part of a community makes us grow the way we want us to be. Being with the people whom we have a closure with is a nice thing because there is an interaction between them even though there’s a dependency in this way of interaction we still need to be with them. For more growth, there should also be an interaction with the people whom we don’t know deeper.

Bonding

There’s a big difference in interaction and bonding. In interaction it focuses on the approach of both camp, and in bonding, it’s how the both camp apply the approach or the way they interact. In bonding, there’s a more closure than interaction, because in bonding dependency on the way of interaction broadens.

Negative Touch

Misunderstanding / Misperceptions

Arguments can harm people and it can lead to a conflict. One of the major factors are misunderstanding and misperceptions. But still, we can avoid this misunderstanding by means of temperance of the pressure in the environment.

Rejection

On the other hand, seeing situation or people negatively is quite unfair but we can’t control it. We can never can’t tell if we will be having hatred to someone because sometimes rejection sometimes provokes us by means of the negative attitude of someone who wants us to reject. Rejection is a way of isolating someone into a community, if there is rejection, it can affect our way of style dealing with people , and there’s a tendency the pressure will occur in a more rigid way.

Hatred

In sensitivity, we can’t feel if there is hatred but we can see if there is argument. Determining hatred is a hard way, but still being empathic can help us to determine it. Actually, we don’t need to discover if a person hates us, but sometimes we need to do it for changing or just preventing things, and this action is sensitivity.

Outgrowths of Sensitivity

Outgrowth or result of sensitivity plays a major factor in this theory, because it focuses on the effects as how we use sensitivity. This area provides optimistic results, and has two parts of outgrowth, both major and minor.

Major Outgrowths

Flexibility

Being sensitive can put ourselves in the right track, and if we are in the right track, we can be flexible. Flexibility plays an important role in sensitivity because if you are flexible adjusting is just easy. Adjusting is just a routine if we are flexible.

Loyalty

In loyalty, there is also sensitivity, because before we commit ourselves into a obligation we first learn how that obligation can be used. Loyalty can be found in family, friends, and in the religion the we are part of. This trait can mold us not only into a better person but a better individual because in loyalty, we are preoccupied by the knowledge of trust.

Charity

To contribute something into a lot of people is a good way of helping them. Letting them receive their needs by means of humbleness can change their silly overview in life. Because of their hardships, they didn’t experience how to be appreciated. By means of charity, we can be able not only to help but also to understand that life is a give and take relationship in all aspects of living.

Minor Outgrowths

Consistency

There is no issue whether it’s a minor or major, the thing is, both outgrowths help sensitivity be understood. In consistency, there’s a repetition of good deeds, wherein people is eager to do good things. People don’t have any hesitations to help with all their hearts.

Appetizing

In affirmation, someone admires you because they noticed you, but in appetizing, there’s an automatic instinct that affirming your own self which is good because the self-confidence is getting higher. And being sensitive confident.

Psychotherapy: Enriquez Approach

Enriquez believes that sensitivity makes the people endless, because if we are endless, we want to be better, s better person, a better individual.

The general objective of the Enriquez Approach is to give affirmation to the people into a light talk. The patients should identify their responsibilities first; and it will be possible with the help of the therapist. Having a light talk is just a normal conversation but having a light talk is a way of relaxing our mind, and if there is a relaxation, our mind will be preoccupied by the peaceful way.

2009-02-15T00:31:00.002+08:00

Industry vs Inferiority (this video was downloaded form the YOUTUBE)

2009-02-14T17:45:00.004+08:00

Scaffolding (this video was downloaded from the YOUTUBE)

2009-02-09T00:14:00.003+08:00

Latency Stage (this video was downloaded from the YOUTUBE)

2009-02-09T00:09:00.002+08:00

Politics in Preschool

2009-01-21T19:34:00.002+08:00

http://www.youtube.com/user/HeidiVanLier

...have a reflection after this... =>

Parents... this is for you...

2009-01-21T19:31:00.000+08:00

CHILD DOESN'T WAIT
by: Kathie Davis

I was sitting on a bench
while in a nearby mall,
When I noticed a young mother
with two children who were small.

The youngest one was whining,
"Pick me up," I heard him beg
but the mother's face grew angry
as the child clung to her leg.

"Don't hang on to me," she shouted
as she pushed his hands away,
I wish I'd had the courage
to go up to her and say...

"The time will come too quickly
when those little arms that tug,
Won't ask for you to hold them
or won't freely give a hug.

"The day will sneak up subtly
just as it did with me,
When you can't recall the last time
that your child sat on your knee.

"Like those sacred, pre-dawn feedings
when we cherished time alone
Our babies grow and leave behind
those special times we've known.

"So when your child comes to you
with a book that you can share,
Or asks that you would tuck him in
and help him say his prayer...

"When he comes to sit and chat
or would like to take a walk,
Before you answer that you can't
`cause there's no time to talk.

"Remember what all parents learn
so many times too late,
That years go by too quickly
and that childhood doesn't wait.

"Take every opportunity,
if one should slip away
Reach hard to get it back again,
don't wait another day."

I watched that mother walk away
her children followed near,
I hope she'll pick them up
before her chances disappear...

Child Abuse: Crap

2009-01-21T19:29:00.000+08:00

THE WAR OF THE CHILDREN
by: Aldo Krass

The child abuse has been the war of the children
It is going on for too long in a world like this
The children is the victim of it
It is the children who suffers more each day
Stop the child abuse now
We want to put an end to this war
Make the public aware that this exists
Love the children with all your heart
Make the children feel worth
Make them feel special
Show them respect and let them respect you
Because respect and love is a two way thing
Respect the children wishes
Make this world a safe place for our children
Teach them to listened
Let them feel welcome in this world
Let the children live there lives
When you abuse the children
You break there hearts, you are destroying there dreams
And the respect they have for you is lost
What do you get when you abuse the children?
You get no satisfaction
The children have lost there sense of worth
They don’t feel special anymore
And they don’t feel safe anymore
The children know whom they can trust and whom they can’t
Help the children to grow in a safe environment
Feel there hearts with laughter and take there sadness away
Give them the support they need each day as they live there lives

for you to understand children, read this...

2009-01-21T19:23:00.003+08:00

Children
by: Faith Deskins

Children know laughter
They know tears
Children know peace
They know chaos
Children know acceptance
They know rejection
Children know joy
They know pain
Children know abundance
They know lack
Children know health
They know illness
Children know fulfillment
They know emptiness
Children know hope
They know dismay
Children know love
They know hatred
What they don’t know is WHY!

for a special girl

2009-01-06T14:32:00.008+08:00

When I Noticed You... I've seen a THOUGHTFUL girl...

When I Met You... I find you NICE...

When I've Known You... I've got a FRIEND...

When You've Loved Me... I've got CONFUSED...

When I've Loved You... You were TAKEN...

And now, I Still Love You... But you just CAN'T or maybe DON'T LOVE me anymore...

"I'm so sorry... I don't mean to hurt you before... I still love you.. And I'll promise, just give me a second chance... I'll do everything, not because I just need you, but for the reason that... YOU'VE LET ME FEEL WHAT LOVE IS..."

New Year's Resolution???

2009-01-06T13:47:00.005+08:00

This new year, a lot of people prepared their new year's resolution... but the queation is, are they going to do their resolutions... hmmm... I hope so, 'coz I also have my new years resolution... but its not for me to be a better ME... but for me to reinforce myself... but still... I know I can't, because there's a lot of factors to considered and I know you will agree with me... For the reason that, sometimes things may go on the wrong way though we're the one responsible for those mistakes but sometimes people manipulate us though life has a choice... we can't ignore them.. just for them to shut up...

...CONFUSED with my LIFE...

gLOBAL cRISIS by ME

2008-12-23T16:38:00.003+08:00

GLOBAL CRISIS... whaaaaattttttttt.....??????????

it's quite alarming for teenagers but so, so alarming to our parents... because we might experience this problem next year and it's a domino effect... like what's happening in the US and in some other countries... a lot of business owners have decided to close their business because of the financial status that their experiencing due to Global Crisis... and take note this not only a money talk, but also this is about living because in the global crisis it includes FOOD, WATER and FUEL...

actually, we're experiencing this crisis in a bit today... but it may go to the higher level next year... so we need to save, save and save LITERALLY... money, food, fuel, water, and FAITH.....

so for TEENAGERS out there... we need to be MORE COOPERATIVE for us to help our parents in a way... we need to be alert and calm at the same time, 'coz with calmness and faith... we can overcome this GLOBAL CRISIS...

Maligayang Pasko

2008-12-23T16:35:00.002+08:00

Maligayang Pasko... Ngayon, sa pagsapit ng araw ng pasko lahat ay tuwang-tuwa dahil marami ang makakatanggap ng mga aginaldo sa kanilang mga ninong at ninag... ang pasko rin ang araw na kung saan kadalasan umuuwi ang mga OFWs para sa Pinas magcelebrate ng pasko kasama ang mga mahal nila sa buhay... Syempre sa pasko, hidni makukumpleto kapag hindi mo kasama ang pamilya mo, kumpleto nga sa handa wala nman sila sa piling moh, baliwala parin dibah... kaya ngayong pasko, sana lahat makadama ng pagmamahal, kapayapaan, at kasaganahan sa buhay... ;->

PASKO-KAPOS

2008-12-01T19:16:00.002+08:00

ilang araw na lang, PASKO na... ilang araw na lang pero KAPOS parin ang bulasa nga PINOY... tumataas na kasi ang mga bilihin, ang bayad sa jeep, at ang mga bagay-bagay na kailangan talga natin... ang hirap talgah... kaya kailangan ng malaking TIPID actions para DI IPIT sa bulasa sa darating na kapaskuhan...

stop over?

2008-12-01T19:01:00.002+08:00

sa buhay... kailangan ng stop over para maka pagpahinga, maka pag-isip... ikaw? may stope over ka bah...

kung ako ang tatanungin nyo, WALA... sa ngayon lang naman... ang dami ko kasing ginagawa... pagkagaling ko ng school pupuntah ako agad sa simbahan, at 11:00pm na ako nakakauwi... may malaking event kasi na kailangan paghandaan... nagagalit na nga ang mga magulang ko eh, kasi hindi na nila ako nakikita... ang hirap kasi dahil MASAYA, dahil NAG-EENJOY ako... masaya kasi, pinaghihirapan namin ang isang bagay na alam namin sa umpisa mahirap talgang gawin, lalo na kung 99% ay mga kabataan na unang beses pa lang makakaexperience ng ganito... HUH... masaya rin kasi nagkaroon kami ng mga bagong kaibigan...

kailangan pa bah ng stop over, kahit ito ang dahilan para lang sumaya ang isang TULAD ko... MALUNGKOT kasi ako ngayun eh... malungkot na malungkot... MAY GUST AKONG GAWIN PERO HINDI KO MAGAWA...

kaibigan mo Ako

2008-11-30T00:35:00.002+08:00

masaya magkaroon ng maraming kaibigan... kaibigan sa tawanan, kaibigan sa kainan, kaibigan sa lokohan, kaibigan sa gimikan, at kaibigan syempre sa iyakan... PERO MAS MASARAP ANG KAIBIGAN NA TATAPIK SAYO AT SASABIHIN NA "nandito Ako, kapag nawala sila sayo, kahit hindi mo ako mapansin, nandito lng Ako..."

I Never Thought

2008-11-30T00:30:00.002+08:00

I never thought our love will be a three, that always grow and grow and grow... even though its complicated to your part to love and love and love me the way I love you...

waiting... loving...

2008-11-15T15:32:00.001+08:00

ang hirap mangakong mag-aantay ka... ang hirap mangakong aantayin mo siya... pero ang mas mahirap sa lahat ay ang mag-antay sa kanya at antayin siya...

self-reflect

2008-10-30T13:21:00.004+08:00

I FELT THAT I'M ALONE IN THIS ROLLER COASTER LIFE AND I DON'T EVEN KNOW WHY... MAYBE BECAUSE I JUST CAN'T SHARE MY PROBLEMS TO MY FAMILY OR TO MY FRIENDS... haiiiii... I DON'T KNOW, I'M CLUELESS...

desisyon

2008-10-30T12:56:00.003+08:00

Desisyon
an informal article by MIGS ENRIQUEZ

may mga bagay-bagay nga na pinag-iisipan nating mabuti dahil gusto natin magkaroon ng magandang resulta... pero syempre, may mga bagay-bagay rin na pinagdedesisyunan nga natin ngunit hindi naman natin ito pinag-iisipan...

sa buhay natin, ang pagdedesisyon talaga ang napaka kumplikado... pag-isipan mo man ito o hindi, dahil kadalasan nalalaman natin ang halaga ng pangyayari kapag nasa atin na ang resulta...

sa pagdedesisyon, hindi naman mahirap tanggapin kung hindi mo ito pinagisipan tapos talo ka naman, o pangit yung naging resulta... ang mahirap nga lang, kapag pinag-isipan mong mabti tapos hindi maganda ang resulta, para kang nagsayang ng pagod at panahon... pero gayumpaman, natututo ka at nalalaman mo ang dapat at hindi na dapat...

yan ang buhay, minsan madaya pero kadalasan naman masaya...

voice

2008-10-24T12:40:00.004+08:00

it's not easy to do the right way, the right approach again to the person whom you've hurt many times... but for you to let him/her understand that you're very sorry for all your wrong doings, set an appointment for you to make some talks, 'coz even though action speaks louder than voice... voice can assure you one thing, and that is TO CHANGE THAT WRONG ACTIONS...

Pagmamahal, Pagtitiwala, at Pananampalataya

2008-10-24T12:32:00.003+08:00

sabi ni Nora Aunor, "Walang Himala, Ang Himala Ay nasa Puso lamang."

pero napagtanto-tanto ko naman na, "May Himala, kung Manggagaling ito sa Puso natin."

tulad na lang kapag tayo'y hihiling, hindi dapat galing lang sa bibig natin, dapat may kasamang pagmamahal at pagtitiwala, at higit sa lahat pananampalataya... minsan ang mga hiling o dasal natin ay hindi natutupad, kaya minsan naiinis tayo sa Diyos, kasi kahit may pananalig tayo sa kanya hindi natin kadalasan nakukuha ang bagay na hinihiling natin... sabi nila kaya daw nagkakaganoon, kasi humahanap lang daw ang Diyos ng timing, ng takdang oras... kaya nasa sa atin na lang yan kung makapag-aantay tayo o hindi...

Sa Bawat kilos ko'y Ikaw

2008-10-20T08:33:00.002+08:00

Sa pagmulat ng mata ako'y napapatawa
Sa bawat paghikab ika'y naaalala
Sa pagsapit ng dilim ikaw ang naiisip
Sa pagtulog naman ikaw ang panaginip

Happy 1st Anniversary

2008-10-20T08:07:00.002+08:00

Happy Anniversary... :-) HIndi ko talaga matago ang kaligayahan na nadadama ko ngayon dahil isang taon na po ang 1st and ever blog ko, itong blog na toh MY ONE AND ONLY REALIZATION BLOG... for 1yr nagbigay ng mga obserbasyon sa buhay-buhay... Mapa lungkot o saya, naging parte po ka'yo ng blog na ito... Hindi po ito magtatagal ng wala ang suporta nninyo, kayong mga kaibigan ko... Sana mabigyan pa ako ng maraming years to give you my OBSERVATIONS in life...

seriously and honestly

2008-10-17T13:03:00.002+08:00

SERIOUSLY, I'm afraid to lose you not because I love you... but HONESTLY, I'm just afraid that someone might love you the way I secretly used to do...

raffy dl

2008-10-17T12:23:00.002+08:00

don't irritate me, 'coz you're so irritable
-raffy de leon-

a poem for 1BPS '08-'09 (1st sem)

2008-10-17T11:46:00.005+08:00

BestPrenS
-migs enriquez-

nag-umpisa ang ating samahan, sa tuwa at saya
nag-umpisa ang ating pagkakaibigan sa paniniwala at pagtitiwala

nabuo ta'yo sa pamamagitan ng isang pangarap
pero mas nabuo ta'yo sa pamamagitan ng ating pangarap

maikling sandali man ang ating napagsamahan
sa loob naman ng limang buwan tayo'y nagmahalan

nagkaroon man ng di-pagkakaintindihan
tayo naman ay nagkaunawaan

ngayon, kahit dumating na ang araw na kung saan mas nalaman natin ang ating kagustuhan
sana, huwag natin kalimutan ang ating nabuong pagsasamahan

kailangan man ng iba lumisan
maging masaya sana tayo sa kanilang kapalaran

kaya kahit iba't ibang bituin na ang ating abutin
iba't ibang daan na ang ating tawirin
iba't ibang tao na ang magpapangiti sa atin
sana panatiliin parin natin
ang pagkakaibigang ating inagkin

my top three favorite quotes by SHIZNIT N STUFF

2008-10-12T22:01:00.003+08:00

MY top 3 trip quotes

DREAM AS IF YOU'LL LIVE FOREVER, LIVE AS IF YOU'LL DIE

TO THE WORLD YOU ARE JUST ONE PERSON, BUT TO THE ONE PERSON YOU COULD MEAN THE WORLD

YOU NEVER LOSE BY LOVING, YOU ALWAYS LOSE BY HOLDING BACK

(http://www.geocite.com/aya12848ShiznitnStuff.html)

by ms. estafia (prof namin sa gen. psych)

2008-10-12T20:49:00.001+08:00

feeling motivates emotion

tambolista sa jeepney

2008-10-12T19:55:00.004+08:00

Tambolista sa Jeepney
an informal article by MIGS ENRIQUEZ

sakay dyan, sakay dito... pila dyan pila dito... punuan dyan, punuan dito... ang dami na talgang sumasakay ng jeep lalu na kung umaga, minsan kasi mabilis mapuno ang FX at napaka mahal naman ng cab...

sa jeep laging kumikita ang mga driver at ang assistant nya, pero sa ngayon hindi lang silang dalawa ang kumikita, pati narin ang mga bata na may dalang mga tambol at sumasabit sa jeep para mamalimos... iba na talga ang paraa ng mga batang walang makain at gustong kumita... oo, nakakainis... oo, ang sakit sa tenga... pero at least hindi sila nagnanakaw para mabuhay, kung tutuusin, ginagamit pa nila ang talento nila para mabuhay...

mahirap na talagang humanap ng pera, pati bata nagtatrabaho na para makatulong sa kanilang mga magulang... ang hirap na talagang maging parte sa mahirap na bansa pero kahit ganoon, sana wag tayong mawalan ng pag-asa... pag-asa na balang araw makakamtan natin ang masaya at malusog na bansa...

opposites attract

2008-10-01T00:23:00.002+08:00

love can make our life complicated, because of its attraction to the people whom sometimes we don't like... like what they said, "OPPOSITES ATTRACT"

pag-ayaw na, tama na

2008-10-01T00:17:00.003+08:00

sa isang relasyon, pag-ayaw muna tapusin muna para hindi mo na masaktan ang karelasyon mo... dahil mas sasaktan mo siya kung pipilitin mung mahalin siya kahit hindi mo na kaya... kasi ba naman, binibigay niya ang lahat, at ikaw ni kalahati hindi mo maibigay ang binibigay niya...

for you...

2008-10-01T00:06:00.001+08:00

I CAN'T LET YOU GO... NOT BECAUSE I NEED YOU, BUT BECAUSE I LOVE YOU...

RTR

2008-09-16T12:06:00.002+08:00

...Resting, Thinking, and Realizing is OVER...

ictfilwsteh

2008-08-15T19:15:00.001+08:00

...it's complicated to fall in love with someone that everybody hates...

kapamilya ka eh

2008-08-15T19:09:00.003+08:00

ang sarap bumyahe lolo na't kasama mo ang mga minamahal mo... kahit natatraffic ayos lang basta may nakakausap ka... PARANG BUHAY, byahe ka ng byahe kasama ang mga mahal mo... na kahit na may problema, andyan sila para sumalo sa'yo kasi mahal ka nila... KAPAMILYA ka nila eh...

our professor told us

2008-06-11T21:37:00.004+08:00

I'm now a 1st year College Student in San Beda College... and I'm taking-up B.S. Psychology...

so much for that, I just want to share something regarding what our professor told us about being a FRESHMEN COLLEGE STUDENT...

"hmmm... this is just a few lines and it's not exactly what he said, I will just share to you my understanding about it..."...

BEING PART OF A NEW SCHOOL OR SIMPLY BEING A FRESHMEN COLLEGE STUDENT IS LIKE HAVING A SECOND CHANCE... A SECOND CHANCE FOR YOU TO SHINE, A SECOND CHANCE FOR YOU TO LEARN... ITS LIKE RESUMING YOUR POSTPONED TRIP...

Salamat Sa 'Yo Ina by Ronnie Liang

2008-05-11T10:19:00.001+08:00

Happy Mother's Day

2008-05-11T10:16:00.000+08:00

act now...

2008-05-11T10:05:00.000+08:00

I will act now. I will act now. I will act now. Henceforth, I will repeat these words each hour, each day, everyday, until the words become as much a habit as my breathing, and the action which follows becomes as instinctive as the blinking of my eyelids. With these words I can condition my mind to perform every action necessary for my success. I will act now. I will repeat these words again and again and again. I will walk where failures fear to walk. I will work when failures seek rest. I will act now for now is all I have. Tomorrow is the day reserved for the labor of the lazy. I am not lazy. Tomorrow is the day when the failure will succeed. I am not a failure. I will act now. Success will not wait. If I delay, success will become wed to another and lost to me forever. This is the time. This is the place. I am the person.

-Og Mandino-

superboy

2008-05-01T12:33:00.002+08:00

it's hard to be a SUPERMAN especially when the people around you treats you as a SUPERBOY

-migs enriquez-

run...

2008-04-21T19:33:00.003+08:00

SOMETIMES YOU NEED TO RUNAWAY TO SEE WHO WILL FOLLOW YOU...

(http://www.geocities.com/aya12848/ShiznitStuff.html)

this is life...

2008-04-21T19:03:00.003+08:00

Life is so wonderful, right? but sometimes not... (but that's life)

especially when you thought everything is OK, everything is UNDER CONTROL... then one day, you realize that your life is going to NOWHERE...

Halo-halo

2008-04-05T12:17:00.001+08:00

an IN DEMAND food during SUMMER BREAK...
HALO-HALO...

Summer Tips

2008-04-03T15:50:00.002+08:00

SUMMER is the time to RELAX, and to have FUN at the same time... so, MAGANDA kung hindi lang tayo nasa bahay... kaya naman I will give you some TIPS to have a GREAT or just to have a COOL SUMMER... those TIPS are as follows...:

1. NEGOSYO NGAYONG SUMMER
- its nice to have a short-time business this summer para naman maka pag-ipon sa pasukan at para na rin makatulong kina NANAY at TATAY...

2. SUMMER LESSONS or WORKSHOPS
- maganda rin umattend sa mga summer lessons, like: swimming, guitar, acting, dance lesson and etc...

3. SUMMER JOB
- dito, makakatulong ka rin kina NANAY at TATAY and at the same time magkakaroon ka ng working experience...

4. BE A MEMBER OF AN ORGANIZATION
- sumali sa mga organization sa barangay para naman hindi ka ma bored sa bahay at makakatulong ka pa, tulad ng COMMUNITY SERVICE...

5. OUTING
- syempre ang best tip ay ang outing, na kahit mahal OK lng kasi nga nakaka UNWIND...

-MIGS ENRIQUEZ-

Summer Tips...

2008-04-03T12:09:00.000+08:00

Parents to Children

2008-03-27T11:40:00.002+08:00

Without PARENTS, there will be no GOOD CHILDREN...

but also...

Without CHILDREN, there will be no GOOD PARENTS...

-MIGS ENRIQUEZ-

Education, molds me

2008-03-25T12:51:00.006+08:00

...MY ACTIONS OF LEARNING...
-MIGS ENRIQUEZ-

In Nusery, I found out the ABC plus the 123...

In Kinder, I learned the use of the ABC with the 123...

In Grade 1, I roamed around the classroom and played with my classmates...

In Grade 2, I became a real student...

In Grade 3, I understand more the people and the things around me...

In Grade 4, I trust myself...

In Grade 5, I stand up...

In Grade 6, I'm excited...

In First Year, I step and dream high...

In Second Year, challenge and teach myself...

In Third Year, I accepted my inferiorities and developed my special skills...

In Fourth Year, I go and grow...

IN SUMMARY

EDUCATION molds me...

TEAM MOTIVATION: also a KEY to SUCCESS

2008-03-21T10:16:00.000+08:00

Team Motivation

by Peter Grazier
Originally appeared in EI Network January, 1998

Motivation. We hear the term often. Generally we associate the word with human behavior, meaning, a state of mind that moves us to action. And even though few of us have had formal training in it, it’s one of those characteristics of life that seems to fit the old adage, “I know it when I see it.”

For most of my years working in the field of workplace collaboration, this word has held a place of stature and importance, because it has been, perhaps, the most significant outcome of worker involvement. As the collaboration trend, and more specifically, the use of employee teams continues to grow, one question that is taking on greater importance is how to keep the team motivated over the long haul.

What are the ingredients or characteristics of teams that seem to sustain high levels of motivation?

I posed this question to a group of people recently and found that it tapped into some deeply held beliefs about what makes us do what we do. So for those of you working with teams, here are some thoughts that might help:

What Makes Us Do Anything?
Probably the first question to be answered in a discussion of motivation is “What makes us do anything?” Why am I writing this article? Why are you reading it? Why did you get out of bed today and go to work? Why did you join that volunteer organization last month? Why did you drop out of the other one?

Each day brings with it an endless list of decisions to be made. The process of making those decisions is driven, in large part, by the hope of a benefit or the fear of a consequence.

For example, I truly enjoy coffee and donuts from Dunkin’ Donuts. I pay them money for the benefit of enjoying the taste and filling a void in my stomach. However, I limit my intake of these donuts for fear of the consequences of too much sugar and fat in my diet.

Literally, every decision we make is filtered through this process. The industrial psychologists have taken this further by defining these consequences as needs. Our needs for sustenance, safety, security, belonging, recognition, and a sense of growth and achievement become strong drivers (motivators) of behavior.

The subject of motivation is, at once, simple and complex. Simple, in that it explains much of what we see happening in human behavior, yet complex when it poses contradictions.

For example, the need to nourish ourselves is strong, and hunger will drive us to extreme actions, particularly in the case of extreme hunger. However, how does one explain a hunger strike? How can you explain the actions of someone who has died because they chose not to eat? The psychologists will say that a higher level need took over....perhaps the need to make a point about an issue that, to the person, was larger than life itself.

So as we attempt to understand motivation, we need to appreciate the subtleties that exist in human behavior, and focus our attention on general principles of motivation that have wider application. At least if we can understand some of these principles, we might be better prepared to lead or facilitate a long-term, highly motivating team experience.

Why Be Part Of A Team?
You’ve been asked to participate on a team to accomplish some task. Immediately your decision-making process begins.

* What is the purpose of the team?
* Is it a topic that interests me?
* Who will be on the team with me?
* What kind of authority will we have?
* Is it important to management?
* What is the reward for participating?
* What is the risk (perceived as punishment) for not participating?
* How long will it run?
* Will I be better off as a result of my participation?

These are some of the questions we ask ourselves when faced with an invitation to participate in some kind of team. Are they typical questions?...of course. Do they relate to our motivation to participate?... certainly.

Sometimes, however, we are not given the opportunity to refuse participation on a team: for example, a work group or an organization that has restructured itself into self-directed work teams. In these cases, by default, we are part of the group or team.

Nevertheless, in either case, motivation can rise or fall depending on a myriad of factors. Let’s look at some of them.

Factors That Influence Team Motivation

I. Purpose
I have asked people for years to describe the characteristics of their most successful and rewarding team experiences. At the top of almost everyone’s list is a clear purpose, focus, or mission. But further, for long-term motivation, it must be a purpose or mission that they find aligns with their personal wants and needs.

One can be asked to participate on a temporary task force. If the mission is clear, he might be able to sustain motivation for the duration if he feels it is important. However, if it is a topic that is not in line with his wants and needs, his motivation to continue may diminish.

Many years ago on a construction project, I had assembled a group of electricians to streamline the process of making cable terminations. Since they were all electricians, I thought there would be great interest in working on a process that was frustrating people the way it was designed.

About a month into the group’s work, they were having great difficulty maintaining momentum and focus. When I asked them why, they said that some of the electricians were conduit specialists and some were cable tray specialists, and that those not working directly with the cable terminations simply couldn’t get interested in the subject. What a lesson for me! Motivation in this case was lacking because the team’s purpose was not in line with some of the members’ wants and needs.

So one strategy with a lethargic team might be to stop the process, re-visit the team’s purpose or mission, and see if there’s alignment on it. Even with a team that seems well-motivated, it still is a good strategy to recheck once in a while.

II. Challenge
Another term that I hear frequently when I ask about team motivation is challenge. The human species, as with most animals, has been given a survival mechanism called fight or flight syndrome. When presented with a challenge, our defenses are alerted to move us to action....to run away from danger or address it directly.

Many people will say that their most rewarding team experiences resulted from some sort of challenge. I’ve heard the stories often of mediocre groups that responded to a challenge with heroic success. The challenge itself was the motivator.

In the workplace, these challenges occur infrequently. Teams are not presented with stimulating challenges every day. So the question becomes how to provide challenges to the team at more frequent intervals.

An additional criteria for a challenge is the level of difficulty. If a challenge is too difficult, perhaps perceived as impossible, then team members may give up before they start. However, the same result may occur if the members perceive the challenge as too easy. Little energy is required to accomplish something so easily obtained.

So for ongoing teams, periodic stimulation in the form of a worthy challenge is another method of maintaining motivation.

In 1983, I was managing a work group for a large construction organization. It was a long-term project (10 years), and senior management had discussed conducting an open house for the workforce. Management, however, had always nixed the idea--fearing the difficulty of coordinating an event that would encompass seven thousand workers and their families.

My work group heard about the idea, however, and asked to take on this assignment. There was enormous interest in conducting this event within the workforce, so with much support, my group planned and successfully coordinated an open house that ultimately attracted over 10,000 people.

The challenge for my group was enormous....but achievable. The challenge created high levels of motivation while planning the event; and the sense of accomplishment after the event sustained motivation even longer.

I don’t suggest by this example, that every work group take on such a formidable task, but simply think about the implications of taking on a new challenge periodically.

III. Camaraderie
Seldom, if ever, in our MBA programs (which purport to be leadership development programs) have we seen courses of study in team development and motivation. That is changing now and will continue to change in the future.

If one studies highly effective groups, one finds that the most successful groups over the long haul tend to address both the technical needs and human needs. These groups are at the same time competent in the work they perform and highly functional in their interpersonal relationships. The group is well balanced in both technical and human skills.

Another factor that emerges from my queries about successful teams is camaraderie, meaning comradeship, fellowship, and loyalty. The people on these teams genuinely like each other and work hard to develop and maintain their relationships.

Although they are probably not aware that research supports this behavior, they just seem to understand that it’s a lot easier to support your team member when you have a good relationship. The fallout from this kind of relationship building is open and direct communication, frequent praising of each others’ contributions, and mutual support.

So, you will say, that is all well and good for teams whose members like each other, but what if they don’t like each other?

Much of the time we like or dislike someone, it relates more to how well we understand them. And since our formal training has not addressed this, most of us enter adulthood ill-equipped to deal with the myriad of personalities, temperaments, cultures, values, beliefs, ideologies, religions, and idiosyncratic behaviors of those we meet.

One way to break down these barriers is to expand one’s understanding of his own species. Training is available to address most of the topics above, and exercises can be beneficial if they move us to another level of understanding.

But don’t overlook the simple solutions. Designing an off-site activity for the team, sometimes just to play together, is a powerful way of building camaraderie. For more thoughts on this, see our article "Celebrations and Events to Build the Team".

IV. Responsibility
In general, people and teams are stimulated by being given responsibility. Having ownership of an identifiable block of work is a long-held tenet of motivation in groups.

Responsibility can be tricky, however. Implied in this concept is the understanding that the responsibility comes along with authority to make the necessary changes. Teams that have both the responsibility and authority tend to maintain motivation over longer periods of time.

Responsibility can be demotivating if the consequences of error or failure are too great. If the organization, for example, has a history of punishing mistakes, then the giving of responsibility is viewed more as a negative. The short-term performance may be good (remember fear is a motivator), but long-term motivation will suffer. It is difficult to sustain high performance when energy is being sapped by fear.

V. Growth
Finally, personal and team growth can provide another basis for sustained motivation. When people feel they are moving forward, learning new concepts, adding to their skill base, and stretching their minds, motivation tends to remain high. Personal growth adds value to the individual, enhancing self-esteem and self-worth.

Accordingly, team members and team leaders should look for opportunities that help add knowledge and skills. A good technique is to simply ask members what they would like to get from their association with the team, then listen for areas of possible growth.

VI. Leadership
A good leader can be a catalyst for motivation in the short term, but the best leaders create the conditions for the team to motivate itself.

We have all seen examples of how leaders inspired teams to accomplish some phenomenal task. History books and Hollywood are full of these stories, and we come to honor these leaders.

But the charismatic leader that can be so effective in the short term, cannot necessarily sustain motivation indefinitely. Motivation is inherently intrinsic, residing within oneself. Therefore, if one depends continually on another for their source of motivation, eventually it ends.

Great leaders have a knack for helping others see the best in themselves, providing the stimulus for self-actualizing behaviors.

But great leaders also understand the importance of team purpose, challenge, camaraderie, responsibility, and growth, and focus much of their time on creating the conditions for these to exist.

Great leaders understand that their team members have needs, and that for motivation to grow and continue, the activities of the team must help in some way to meet these needs.

Summary
A team whose members are aligned with its purpose, feel a challenge in their task, have a strong sense of camaraderie, feel responsibility for the outcome, and experience growth as a team and in their personal lives, will tend to sustain motivation over the long haul.

This is not to say that they will not have difficulties at times, or that members’ wants and needs won’t change over time. In these cases, sometimes changes will have to be made. A member who no longer feels the team is meeting his or her needs may have to leave the team to continue on their own path.

But, in as much as it is possible to sustain motivation indefinitely, the factors above will tend to create the best possible environment for it.

youth org.

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TO BE PART OF A YOUTH ORGANIZATION IS SOMETHING COOL AND DIFFERENT
BECAUSE OF THE ACTIVITIES THAT YOU'LL ENJOY...

YOU CAN ALSO MAKE FRIENDS WITH YOUR CO-YOUTH, SO THAT YOUR COMPANIONSHIP WILL BE MORE COMFORTABLE...

-as i experience-

Semana Santa

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SEMANA SANTA
(Ni Koyang Jess)

Ang Semana Santa ang huli at pinakatampok na linggo ng Kuwaresma, ang 40-araw na pag-aayuno ng mga Katoliko. Ito ang panahon ng paggunita sa kamatayan at muling pagkabuhay ni Hesukristo. Sa Pinas, ang gayong paggunita ay nasa anyo ng literatura, musika, drama, at maging ng eskultura.

Ang pasyon, halimbawa, ay patulang salaysay ng buhay ni Kristo. Ang pabasa ay pagkanta sa pasyon. Ang senakulo naman ay pagsasadula nito. At ang prusisyong pang-Mahal na Araw ay isang pagtatanghal ng mga tagpo ng pasyon sa anyo ng inukit na estatwa ng mga poon.

Kakatwa ang terminong "pabasa" sapagkat ang pasyon ay hindi binabasa lamang kundi kinakanta. Dati-rati, ang pagkanta ng pasyon ay a capella o walang saliw na instrumento. Pero ngayon, inaakumpanyahan ito ng gitarista, rondalya, o ng isang pangkat ng mga instrumentalista. Karaniwan, ang pabasa ay idinadaos sa bisita o kapilya ng nayon. Gayunman ang mga may-ari ng bawat poon ay nagdaraos din ng sariling pabasa. Sa kapilya, kadalasa'y dalawang ulit binabasa nang buo ang pasyon, nagsisimula sa Miyerkoles Santo at nagtatapos sa Biyernes Santo.

Isang aktibidad ng komunidad ang pabasa, kaya naman buong nayon (maliban siyempre sa mga di-Katoliko) ay lumalahok dito. Bawat pamilya ay may toka o kaya'y boluntaryong kontribusyon -- maaaring pera, pagkain, o maiinom (ang huli'y karaniwang salabat na umano'y pampaganda ng boses o panlaban sa pamamaos).

Sa ilang lugar sa Katagalugan, halimbawa'y sa Bulacan, bawat pamilyang nagmamay-ari ng poon ay may sariling pabasa. Dito'y sagot ng may-ari ng poon ang lahat ng gastusin sa pabasa. Merong mga propesyonal -- ibig sabihi'y binabayaran -- na tagabasa ng pasyon.

Pero dahil magastos umupa ng propesyonal at dahil pangkomunidad nga ang pabasa, kadalasa'y "nagsasakripisyo" na lang ang mga taganayon at sila-sila na lang ang nagsasalitan sa pagkanta. At narito ang ganda at kulay ng pabasa, ang salimbayan ng iba't ibang kalidad (o kawalan nito) ng boses at pagkanta.

Katunayan, ang hilig ng Pinoy sa videoke, ay maaaring ugatin sa tradisyon ng pabasa. Hindi nga ba't sa videoke, kadalasa'y nakatuon sa iskrin ng monitor ang mata ng kumakanta, binabasa ang teksto, kahit kabisadong-kabisado niya ang piyesa?

Samantala, ang tradisyunal na senakulo ay dulang ang usapan ay patula, ibig sabihi'y may tugma at sukat. Idinadaos ito sa kalye, sa mga entabladong yari sa kawayan at kahoy, ang mga tauhan ay may kasuutang halaw pa sa panahon ni Kristo.

Maliban sa ilang pook, tulad ng Parañaque, mahirap nang makatagpo ng tradisyonal na pagsasadula ng buhay at sakit ni Kristo. (Ang Moriones sa Marinduque ay nakatuon sa istorya ni Longhinus, ang senturyong umulos sa dibdib ni Kristo.) Sa modernong senakulo, tulad ng isinasagawa ng ilang aktibistang pangkat-dulaan, si Kristo ay nagiging si Juan dela Cruz, ang karaniwang Pinoy, na pasan pasan ang mga pahirap ng kasalukuyang lipunan: mataas na presyo ng bilihin, mababang suweldo, militarisasyon, katiwalian sa gobyerno, atbp. Ang mga tauhan ay manggagawa, magsasaka, iskwater; ang mga senturyon ay unipormadong sundalo at pulis.

Buhay pa rin hanggang ngayon ang tradisyon ng penitensiya, ang kusang pagpalo -- o pagpapahagupit -- sa sariling katawan. Wari'y hindi pa sapat ang hirap ng buhay sa panahong ito kaya kailangan pang dumanas ng pisikal at madugong pagpaparusa sa sarili. Ang ilan ay aktuwal na nagpapapako sa krus. Ito umano ay panata, paghuhugas ng kasalanan, pagpapatibay ng pananalig sa Maylikha.
Totoong maraming tradisyunal na anyo ng paggunita sa pasyon ni Kristo. Pero ang "makabago" at mas popular na pagdiriwang ngayon ay ang pagliliwaliw sa Boracay o Puerto Galera, pag-uukay-ukay sa Baguio, o -- kung kaya ng bulsa -- "pamamanata" sa Bangkok o Hong Kong.

at the beginning (our graduation song)

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lovetion

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LOVE IS AN ACTION

BUT SOMETIMES

ZERO IN MOTION

changing, accepting, timing

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CHANGING IS ACCEPTING
BUT
ACCEPTING IS NOT CHANGING
'COZ
CHANGING SHOULD BE ON TIMING

Celene Magsaysay

2008-03-08T23:19:00.000+08:00

There is no stopping the future. I just want our love story to come full circle, I wanted it when where I started loving you. Maybe to remind us that it was a good life, and the love, our love, it was the best.

-Celene Magsaysay-

Don't Quit (one of our knowledges in CAT)

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Don't Quit

-unknown-

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you're trudging seems all up hill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest if you must, but don't you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As everyone of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about
When he might have won had he stuck it out;
Don't give up, though the pace seems slow -
You might succeed with another blow.

Often the goal is nearer than
It seems to a faint and faltering man,
Often the struggler has given up
When he might have captured the victor's cup.
And he learned too late, when the night slipped down,
How close he was to the golden crown.

Success is failure turned inside out -
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt -
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems afar;
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit.

Commitment...

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COMMITMENT is a decision, a responsibility, an action.

Before we go into a relationship, we should think twice because it's a COMMITMENT that should have a goal in everyday. Without COMMITMENT the thing that you've into will be just wasted because you did not give importance and care. So before you go into something you should think first the advantages and the disadvantages. Like what people says, "Nasa huli ang pagsisisi."

True Friends...

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IF WE HAVE CRUSHES FRIENDS ARE UPDATED, IF WE ARE EMBARRASSED ARE FRIENDS FEEL IT, IF WE ARE IN LOVE ARE FRIENDS SUPPORT US BUT WHAT IF WE HAVE PROBLEMS, ARE THEY SILL WITH US AND SITTING BESIDE US OR THEY WILL JUST GO AND LAUGH WITH OTHERS... IF THEY WILL DO THAT, THEY ARE JUST FRIENDS BUT IF THEY STAY THEY ARE TRUE FRIENDS...

SOMETIMES WE DON'T KNOW IF HE OR SHE IS THE BEST OF YOUR FRIENDS BUT WE WILL JUST PROVE IT WHEN PROBLEMS OCCUR... CAUSE WHAT LIKE PEOPLE SAY, "WE WILL SEE ARE TRUE FRIENDS IN THE BAD TIMES NOT IN GOOD TIMES".

Some feelings that are often associated with interpersonal love:

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Affection: feelings of tenderness and/or wanting physical closeness
Attachment: satisfying basic emotional needs
Altruism: selfless or unselfish concern for another
Reciprocation: if love is mutual
Commitment: a desire to maintain love
Emotional intimacy: sharing emotions and feelings
Friendship: the spirit between friends
Kinship: family bonds
Passion: whole-hearted desire
Physical intimacy: sharing of intimate personal space
Self-interest: desiring rewards
Service: desire to help

Pick-up Lines ngayong araw ng mga Puso...

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TAGALOG:
* Para kang kulangot, caus eyou're playing hard to get...
* para kang kuto, kasi ba naman I can't get you out og my head...
* Miss, may alam ka bang pagawaan ng relos? Tumitigil kasi ang oras ko lalo na kung kasama
kita...
* Miss, hindi ka ba napapagod? Kanina ka pa ksi tumatakbo sa puso ko...
* Alam mo para kang crayole, kasi lagi kang nagbibigay kulag sa buhay ko...
* Sana homework ka na lng, para sa ganun ma i-take home kita...
* May lisensya ka ba? Cause you're driving me crazy...
* Naniniwala ka ba sa love at first sight? O gusto mo akong dumaan ulit.
* Picture tayo, para close tayo...
* Sana mabago ko ang mga alpabeto, para namn mapag dikit ko ang U and I...
* Switch ka bah? Cause you turn me on...
* Nakalunok ka ba ng kwitis? May spark kasi ang mga ngiti mo eh...
* Pag naging planeta ako gusto ko ikaw ang axis ko, para naman sayo lang iikot ang mundo ko...
* Siguro retarded ka noh... Cause you're so special...
* Ibibili kita ng salbabida kasi baka malunod ka sa pag-mamahal ko...

ENGLISH:
* You're like my underwear, cause I can't last a day without you...
* Have we met before? Cause you look familiar...
* My name is Pogo. Wanna jump on my stick...
* HI! I'm an astronaut and my next exploration is you...
* I'm not Fred Flintstone but I can make your bedrock...
* Hey babe! drop the zero and get with the hero, or in other words YOU BETTER COME
WITH ME...
* Do you have a name? Or can I call you mine...
* Hey! You owe me a beer cause I dropped mine when I look at you...
* Even a blind person can see how beautiful you are...
* Are you a dictionary? Cause you give meaning to my life...
* Ms., can you help me to look for my cat. But wait, I think it went to that hotel...
* Are your parents Greek, cause only Greek can make Goddess like you...
* I am a bee, ca

All The Answer is with God...

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Fragrance in Family...

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Reading : Ephesians 5:23-33
"Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter against them"
( Col 3:19)

Charity begins at home. Our houses must be filled with the fragrance of love (cf Jn 12:3). The home is the most sacred sanctuary in the world. Christ had His last supper in a house. The Holy Spirit on the Day of Pentecost came down in a house. It was in a house the Holy Spirit came for the first time on non-Jews. The early Christians gathered in houses. Their breadbreaking and evangelism were from house to house.

God begins with husbands as He began with Adam. They are to set the ball in motion. If they fail, the entire system goes wrong. Husbands are to love their wives, (a) as Christ loved the Church; (b) as they love their own bodies; and (c) as they love themselves (Eph 5:25,28,33). This is absolute, selfless, joyful love. This love is not always easy and automatic. Isaac, a type of Christ, "loved" his wife (Gen 24:67). The Bible need not mention a virtue which flows out effortlessly. Are not the husbands "commanded" to love their wives? True love is not "because of" but "in spite of!" Elkanah loved Hannah eventhough she was barren (1 Sam 1:5). There is no wife who has never upset her husband. But he should never give place to bitterness, rather keep on loving her ( Col 3:19).

Love begets love. Christ loved us first and we love Him in response. A loving husband and a loving wife are a beautiful gift from God. Their love for each other should cover a multitude of defects and shortcomings. Paul wrote to Titus to teach younger women to love their husbands and the children (Tit 2:4). Yes, love must be taught. It is tough! But when love grows cold, division is on the way. It may not be apparent but internal bleeding is more dangerous! A house divided against itself will not stand (Mt 12:25).

When parents live in love with each other, the children get an atmosphere of love for healthy growth. Someone said, "The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother!" Joseph was so loving and considerate towards Mary both before and after marriage. The Boy Jesus grew in this atmosphere with submission and obedience. As His carpenter father provided for the family, He made a provision for His widowed mother even at His painful death.

O perfect love, all human thought transcending,
Lowly we kneel in prayer before Thy Throne,
That ours may be the love which knows no ending,
Whom Thou forevermore dost join in one!

(Dorothy B. Gurney, 1858-1932)

Kilos naman dyan mga Noypi...

2008-02-02T20:26:00.000+08:00